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It's Me Season

Mastering the Art of Self-Preservation Amidst My Symphony of Roles





In the relentless whirlwind of modern life, where my titles as a Faith-Based Coach, Executive Pastor, Consultant, and Doctoral Student are not just roles but vivid reflections of my intricate journey, embracing "It's Me Season" isn't merely a phrase—it's a mantra, a necessary pivot toward the art of self-preservation. It's a delicate dance of managing my time, energy, and engagement, where being selfish is not a taboo but a strategic necessity for survival and thriving.


As a Faith-Based Coach, I am not just a guide but a beacon of hope and wisdom, a role that demands both my time and my emotional and spiritual energy. As an Executive Pastor, my leadership extends beyond organizational skills to profound spiritual stewardship, requiring a deep well of patience and understanding. Wearing the hat of a Consultant demands my analytical prowess and a relentless pursuit of excellence, while my journey as a Doctoral Student is a testament to my commitment to growth and learning, each with its own unique set of challenges.


In this symphony of roles, how do I not just survive but thrive? How do I reclaim my time and energy while still holding space for others? It's about embracing "It's Me Season" and understanding that being selfish is not disdainful but essential.




  1. Prioritize Self-Care: Self-care isn't a luxury; it's the fuel that powers my multiple roles. It's about giving myself permission to rest, to indulge in activities that rejuvenate my soul and recharge my batteries. I remind myself that an empty lamp cannot light the way for others.

  2. Set Boundaries, Unapologetically: Boundaries aren't barriers; they are the respect I accord to my own time and space. It's okay for me to say no, to recognize that I can't pour from an empty cup. By setting clear boundaries, I not only protect my energy but also teach others to value my time and efforts.

  3. Embrace the Power of Delegation: I don't have to be a superhero. Recognizing the strength in teamwork is vital. Delegating doesn't signify weakness; it symbolizes wisdom—the understanding that collective effort often breeds superior results. It's about trusting others to shoulder the load, allowing me to focus on what truly requires my expertise and attention.

  4. Invest in Time Management Tools: In this digital era, I leverage technology to manage my responsibilities. From time-blocking to using project management apps, I find tools that resonate with my workflow. I understand that effective time management is less about filling every moment with tasks and more about ensuring each task gets its due moment.

  5. Cultivate Mindful Engagement: I strive to be present. Whether coaching and ministering, assisting in leading a congregation, consulting for a business, or diving into academic research, I ensure that my engagement is total but not draining. It's about finding balance and understanding that my presence is valuable but not infinite.


In conclusion, embracing "It's Me Season" is not about sidelining others; it's about understanding that the well-being of the many starts with the well-being of one—me. It's a season of acknowledging that to be truly effective in my myriad roles, I must first be effective in caring for myself. As I navigate this season, I remember that my journey is not just about managing responsibilities but mastering the art of self-preservation amidst my symphony of roles. Welcome to "It's Me Season," where being a little selfish is not just okay; it's necessary.




Journal Prompts


  1. Exploring Personal Boundaries: Reflect on your own life and roles. Are there areas where you feel your boundaries are either too strict or too lenient? Write about a boundary you think needs strengthening and one that might require more flexibility. How could these adjustments enhance your management of time and energy, and contribute to your personal and professional well-being?

  2. Discovering the Power of Delegation: Think about your current responsibilities, whether in your career, studies, or personal life. Is there a task or role you've been managing that might be better handled with the support or leadership of someone else? Identify this task or role and consider who might be best suited to take it on. How could delegating this responsibility help you focus more effectively on areas where your unique skills and attention are most needed?

  3. Cultivating Mindful Engagement: Recall a time when you felt completely engaged and present in a task or interaction. What factors contributed to this level of engagement? How did being fully present affect the outcome of the situation and your own energy levels? Reflect on the steps you can take to achieve this level of mindfulness more consistently in your various roles and responsibilities.



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